Yesterday, I put up a blog post about my challenges with finding close friends as an adult. Today as I was listening to the Party in My Plants Podcast (great name, huh?), I got sucked into a great episode about the exact same topic. Turns out, I’m not the only one who feels that finding friends is hard. I felt like I just had to share some of the down-to-earth tips they shared for those of us who want to expand our social network and develop new friendships.
- Assume that the people you meet want to find new friends, just like you do. I know that I often assume that other cool-seeming girls already have more friends than they can handle. But really, have you even met anyone who actually didn’t want to make new friends?
- Meetup.com is a great place to find others with similar interests. Ok, maybe a little dorky but it’s good to be dorky with friends.
- Follow people online with similar interests. And then message them! (This takes courage.)
- Go out into the world, especially to places where you think you’ll find likeminded people. How about a yoga camp? Or a fun concert? Maybe a flower-arranging workshop or the rock-climbing gym?
- Get curious about others. You are much more likely to connect if you are willing to listen.
- Don’t be too judgmental. It’s easy to jump to the conclusion that someone is “not my kind of person” but you won’t really know unless you actually talk to them.
I just really like these ideas and felt I needed to share a quick follow-up post today. This isn’t to minimize the real challenges that many of us face with loneliness or shyness, it’s just to offer some encouragement and empowerment.
Good luck out there!